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Powerful piece, Will. It struck a chord and I stopped to ponder when I read your chef’s answer.

In my experience, I found that obsessing over what I want was unproductive. What I wanted kept changing - one year I want a family, the next I want to be a cool creative single woman. So, now I’m not obsessed with what I want but then I’m not “putting my mind” to it as you say, and that’s also counter productive.

Your perspective resonates, and sounds like a good way to circumvent my challenges. What is that I don’t want, and then run away from that. Ofc, like everyone else, I’ve already started doing this unconsciously with many of my life choices. And your article is a great invitation for me to do it more consciously.

Loved reading this! Thank you for sharing!

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Wow, some big 'aha' moments for me here. Great piece, Will.

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The parallels between this article and my current life and decisions and pain points is making me believe that magic is real. Thank you... thank you.

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This is a powerful story and wise advice. I see many people, though, that can't follow it because they don't feel something is killing them.

They live a grey life, with no excitement but not "enough pain", either. Sometimes I think we need lower acceptability thresholds for how we spend our lives.

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